MARY VIRGINIA MASON THACKARA
Mary Virginia Mason Thackara, 78, of S. Burlington and Mallett’s Bay, VT and Sanibel, FL, passed away April 29, 2013, in Ft. Meyers, FL, after a brief illness.
Born Nov. 24, 1934, in NYC, she grew up in Shrewsbury, NJ and attended Shrewsbury Grammar School, Rumson Fair-Haven High School, and graduated from The Masters School, in Dobbs Ferry, NY. She attended Hollins College, in Roanoke, VA, and worked in the kindergarten of Mahala Atchison School, in New Shrewsbury until her marriage.
On Dec. 1, 1956, she married Walter M. (Pat) Thackara, and began what would be the happiest 56 years of her life, as a devoted wife, and loving mother to daughter, Pam and son, Chip. She was an active parent at Rumson Country Day School, in the library, Field Day, Whale of a Sale Rummage Fair, as well as Parents Council, serving as President. She was also the Chairman of the Country Kitchen for many years at St. George’s by-the-River’s annual Canterbury Fair. She was a member of Seabright Beach Club, as well as Rumson Country Club, playing golf for many years there, and remained a non-resident member after moving to VT, in 1990. She loved to garden, from her roses in NJ, to her cutting gardens in Vermont, tending them faithfully everyday and filling the summer camp with their beauty. She was as talented in the kitchen, and it was always a fun, family affair to join her, using either her enormous cookbook collection, or favorite heirloom family recipes, to create memorable meals for the constant flow of guests and family visits to “Camp Ingelside” all summer long, as her mother, and grandmother before her did.
When they first visited Captiva, FL in 1979, they immediately knew it would be a wonderful family destination, and she enjoyed many years at South Seas Plantation, as well as their recent Sanibel home, where family and friends visited often, and she loved sharing it with all. Many special hours were spent with her, walking the beach and shelling, which became a favorite pastime with the grandchildren as well. From her first grandchild’s birth, she was “Gammy”, later, dubbed “Glammy” by granddaughter, Emily’s friends, which brought a smile everytime she heard it.
Each of her five grandchildren brought her years of endless joy, laughter, and great pride, whether she was in NJ or VT; watching their games, horse shows, graduations, welcoming home her Marine and her oldest grandson’s wedding. She was eagerly anticipating the wedding of her second grandson this June. Almost a year ago, another milestone was reached, with the birth of her first great-grandchild, and she delighted in every minute spent with him.
She is survived by the love of her life, and husband, Walter M. (Pat) Thackara, daughter, Pamela T. McCoy, Navesink, NJ; and son, Charles (Chip) H. Thackara and his wife, Maribeth, Colchester, VT. She is also survived by her grandchildren, Andrew McCoy and wife, Jillian, Monmouth Beach, NJ; Brett McCoy and fiancé, Danielle Ribacoff, Bayside, NY; Carter McCoy and fiancé, Julia Diaco, Rumson, NJ; Emily Louise and Mason James Thackara. Colchester, VT; and her Great Grandson, Joel McCoy Diaco, Rumson, NJ. She also leaves her cousin, Richard McKay, Tampa, Fl., and the many wonderful friends who became her “family” through the years.
There will be a Memorial Service to celebrate her life at St. George’s By-The River Episcopal Church, 7 Lincoln Avenue, Rumson, NJ, on Friday, June 14 at 11am.
In Lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to Amyloidosis Foundation (www.amyloidosis.org), St. George’s By-The-River Episcopal Church, Rumson, NJ, or Trinity Episcopal Church, Shelburne, VT.